“Are y’all in a BFG?” This has become one of the most important questions for diagnosing the severity of marital struggles in my pastoral counseling. I need to know if there’s anyone else in the trenches with us working to help this marriage. I also need to know how serious the couple is about making their marriage better. My experience over the last few years has shown me that the vast majority of people who come to me for help with their marriage, no matter how severe the problems may be, are there due to the encouragement of [...]